Some of those throwback, "Well, ..." statements can eventually be damaging. Unfortunately, they sometimes morph into excuses for sub-par behavior---depending on the conversation. Like...
Well, my mother/father was like that.
Well, my mother/father never did that.
Well, I always remember my mother/father doing it this way.
Well, I was never taught that growing up.
All of the above, I'm sure, could be true statements; they are for me. And, we are all structured in some way by how we were raised and by our pasts in general. Our parents surely paid/pay pivotal and profound parts in the makeup of who we have become...mine certainly did! However, just because 'that' was, doesn't mean that it has to exist the exact same way in the 'now.' Sometimes, it comfortably flows into yet another opportunity to make excuses for not showing up maturely in our current lives.
Yes, we continue to learn from our parent's lives--their good and bad experiences. Prayerfully, we allow them to cultivate the "good" in who are or want to become. That means not making continual excuses for certain past decisons, behaviors, patterns, or traditions, but focusing on propelling the knowledge of them to improve us. In that, we choose a residency of higher heights, rather than the complacency of living victoriously as victims in the "Well..." valley.
Maybe it's time to pay attention to our very own "Well..." intentions. For once we know better, we just ought to do better, right? Well (😊), at that point of realized better, we choose a thing---refusal to live in the luxury of lack of self-actualization and accountability. Staying there can be like comforming to an outdated pattern. To that, I say, Well...🤷🏽♀️
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Peace & Blessings,
Lisa C-S
Well said and true.